Violence against women is a crime even if it does not lead to murder. A woman’s murder is the final step in a complex and gradual cycle of violence.
Written by: Daoud Al-Deek
Violence against women is a crime even if it does not lead to murder. A woman’s murder is the final step in a complex and gradual cycle of violence. This is preceded by multiple and successive steps of verbal, psychological, and physical violence, degrading treatment and discrimination. Women who experience violence mostly remain silent, as do those who see and hear it without interfering who might believe that she deserves it. Women are always held responsible and judged, as many consider her to be the basis of error. Although we are shocked when the murder occurs, we are not shocked at all the steps and stages of the violence that precedes the killing, which may have continued for months or years without anyone interfering.
Where do women who experience violence go if they can’t find support from their closest surroundings? What would women do if they are abandoned by their families and forced to endure violence? What is important to them is that she does not leave her husband’s house, and that she does not return to her parent’s house. If she is forced to escape from her husband because of the unbearable violence that she is experiencing, she is returned to him within hours, as it is considered to be shameful. It is required of women to bear violence, severe beatings and torture, and to die a thousand times before she dies for the last time. Most of the women who experience violence do not have the support of their family or their husband’s family. None of the relatives or surrounding community intervene to prevent the cycle of violence.
There are some who do not want institutions’ interference, safety houses or the Family Protection Law, so what do they want? Overall, the murder of women is a crime that is cooked on a slow fire, rather than a moment of recklessness or anger. The murderer is not alone, as there are silent accomplices who did not interfere.
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